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Solution-oriented therapy (Insoo Kim Berg, Steve De Shazer)

Many schools of therapy have an underlying trust that people are fundamentally OK.  Solution-Oriented Therapy is unique in making that trust the actual method of therapy.

Solution-oriented therapy

When grey clouds fill our minds, we focus on our inadequacies, our failures, our feelings of inner ugliness. And we think of our past as photographic evidence of all this. SOBT does just the opposite. It views the past as a treasure house of evidence that we are OK, we deserve to love ourselves, and can move life forward in the direction we need. Of course many other therapies do this. What makes SOBT unique is to start doing this from the very beginning and to keep on.

For example: Let’s suppose that part way into the first session the client has made some picture of what life would look like in six month’s time if things were going better. Different therapists next explore a thousand different things. A solution-oriented approach would next ask: if 10 on a scale is that it seems easy to reach that future, and zero is that it’s impossible, then where does the client feel themselves to be? A common answer is 3 – 4 out of 10.

If so, a followup question might be: What makes it 3 and not zero? In other words what is already present in the client or their life or their history that is good and gives buoyancy and uplift? – and which if fully drawn on can give more self-trust, safety, self-love and sense of can-do.

Another question could be: If things were starting, merely starting, to get better, what would the client be noticing that makes them realise things are on the edge of getting better? This is subtly worded to avoid the client responding with what they habitually think they need or have to do, as these likely trigger a strong “I can’t.” There’s just a presupposition, things will get better.

Questions like these can be, and alas nowadays often are, delivered as mere impersonal technique. But the originators of SOBT  (Insoo Kim Berg in the USA) and the pioneers in the UK (Evan George, Chris Iveson, Harvey Ratner) were and are passionate about people and their potential. They developed SOBT as an affirmation from one human being to another of the client’s potentiality and OK-ness. They made this not the end goal the the therapy, but the starting point and the ongoing methodology.

SOBTs strengths include:

  • Highly present and future oriented. Not past dwelling.
  • Action oriented
  • Emphasises positive self-talk
  • A wonderfully respectful, optimistic and empowering philosophy which creates the success of the method
  • Flexible. If a teacher has 5 minutes with a pupil, they can do 5 minutes worth of SOBT.
  • Forged in social work settings where you get rapid feedback what works.
  • Good in organisational and family settings. You can ask couples the same questions as above.

SOBT’s limitations:

  • Forged in social work settings where Mrs Jones is struggling to not have her second child taken into care. So far too oriented to action, determination and persistence etc.
  • Blinkered focus on behavioural outcomes rather than outcomes of understanding and perspective etc.
  • Works only with the immediately visible problem although the real problem may be buried and take many sessions to emerge.
  • Dismisses sometimes-needed exploration of the past.
  • Dismisses underlying emotional dynamics.
  • Highly male action-oriented, lacks understanding of female qualities.

“To love is to recognize; to be loved is to be recognized by the other.”

– Thich Nhat Hanh

“Working with Andrew was an incredibly deep, profound and life changing experience. I went to Andrew thinking I needed to be cured of loving the love of my life – thankfully this didn’t happen. I cannot thank or recommend Andrew highly enough – the changes that can occur when working with Andrew truly are magic! ”

Ali Lees, Google review

“We started seeing Andrew during a very difficult time, and without his help we would have split up. We both found Andrew’s sessions really helpful and it gave us the insight and tools to iron out the issues that were causing the most problems. Things between us are now really good and we are once again planning a future together.”

Couple who wish anonymity

“I have made some incredible progress and I am now in an intimate and happy relationship thanks to your help.”

Client who requests anonymity.

“I’ve had many therapists over the years, and Andrew has been the most significant to date. He helped me see my life more clearly, he lifted a vale of confusion. I will forever be grateful to Andrew, and have recommended him to multiple people since working together. ”

Holly Smith, Google review

“Andrew is one of the best therapists I have ever worked with. If you want to make a breakthrough with an issue in your life or relationship, I highly recommend him.”

Jenny, Massage therapist, Bristol

“Andrew is one of the best therapists I have ever worked with. He really listens. I feel deeply heard and understood in his sessions and have the space to discover ‘the answers’ for myself. The questions he asks and the comments he does offer are well thought-out and illuminating. I feel he is really there for me and I always experience a big shift in my understanding afterwards. If you want to make a breakthrough with an issue in your life or simply want to be heard, I highly recommend him. Jenny, massage therapist, Bristol. ”

Jenny, massage therapist, Bristol.

“… I had experienced a lot of trauma in my childhood that I had not been able to fully deal with my whole adult life. I had 10 sessions with Andrew and now I am no longer triggered as I had always been by certain situations and interactions. I can love myself finally and this has completely changed my romantic relationships and my career! So many of my friends want to see Andrew now after seeing this dramatic, positive change within me! ”

Kay Dent, Google review

“Andrew is a highly experienced therapist who works with a number of different techniques, some unusual and unexpected (but in a good way!) that get to the heart of your issues quickly. He works gently and safely and I felt held in a safe space throughout the session. I would recommend Andrew to anyone looking for help in dealing with life’s questions. ”

Client who requests anonymity.

“I am finally comfortable with myself and at peace with past experiences. I highly recommend Andrew. He is a true soul healer. ”

Mal Szwarc, Google review

“Had a massive effect on my relationship. Learned loads of really good stuff – surpassed my expectations. [Andrew was] brilliant – a complete star! Emma C ♥♥♥ A very good course. It has changed how I relate. Helen D ♥♥♥ [Andrew had some] … profound insights into relationships … explained clearly. Natasha M ♥♥♥ Met needs I didn’t know I had! I loved the fast-track approach to raising self-esteem … [I had] “eureka” and “lights being switched on” moments. Fiona M. ♥♥♥ Very profound, enriching unravelling of the complexities of relationships. Really enlightening exercises. [Name withheld] ”

Feedback from the last relationship workshop I ran in Bristol.

“ Andrew is an amazing human being! We had a few very useful sessions. He is totally and genuinely committed to helping people. … Thank you Andrew! ”

Pedro Da Silva, Google review

“[Couples clients] Cannot recommend Andrew enough. The most attentive, insightful, astute & compassionate therapist. The difference in our relationship – how we communicate, how we understand & relate to one another, how we’re able to support one another – is absolutely massive, & yet it feels like we’ve only had to make tiny tweaks to get there. Andrew is incredible at facilitating a safe, supportive place, making it surprisingly easy to be truly open & honest & to therefore get the most out of the sessions. Thank you for everything, this therapy has been life changing. ”

Naomi Kent, Google review