Individual psychotherapy and couples therapy in Bristol

Individual and couples therapy in Bristol

Andrew White, Bristol hypnotherapist and Bristol psychotherapist The job of therapy is to restore our trust in our inner treasures. Through hurt and trauma in childhood and adulthood we lose trust in our inner voice, our innate intelligence, our intrinsic value. But we only lose the connection with these qualities. We never lose the qualities themselves. Somewhere inside us our strength, our beauty, our power to act, our trust that we are valuable and lovable, remain alive. The job of therapy is to help people re-connect with the wellspring of these inner treasures. And so, to begin to live more authentically, more fully, and more self-lovingly.

How?

Therapy based on simply talking and talking does not work, whether couples therapy or individual. It it equally doesn’t work to endlessly hash out the pain of the past over and over again. Add further while genuine meditation is a pillar of therapy, corporate McMindfulness has little value.

To invite real change, deeper approaches are needed. In the 1970’s I was fortunate to have been in the early days of the “consciousness revolution”. As a result, over a period of 40 years I’ve met some remarkable therapists and healers and I’ve experienced a wide range of methods. Some of those have shown me what doesn’t work, others have led to profound shifts in my own life. I’ve integrated that through 15,000 hours or so of my therapy practice. This accumulated experience is what I offer today.

And my secret method of psychotherapy is …

My secret method is: I really, really believe the best in people.

That’s it.

I have a trust that the wellsprings of love and strength, of action and of acceptance, are present in everyone. They don’t fundamentally need to be created; they basically need to be recognised, affirmed, and believed in.

Shame, worthlessness, fear of opening to life, protection of vulnerability, feeling inadequate; these painful feelings are powerful. From the viewpoint of meditation, they are however bad dreams. Powerful and compelling bad dreams; but not realities. Behind those bad dreams our essence qualities remains intact.

Intact, yes, but commonly our buried essence qualities are also very scared of attack or scorn, very vulnerable to rejection or compulsion, very afraid they will be unlovable. Therapy has to meet these traumatised parts gently, invitingly, softly. These parts of ourselves need above all to feel safe to come back to life after trauma.

What therapy cannot and should not promise

Human realities apply to any kind  of psychotherapy or healing. In any given moment of life one person may be in a position to make a  big step. They can drop a lot their baggage, turn a big corner, maybe never look back. Someone else can make only a small step. Very heavy life events, for example, can obviously cause healing to take time. So no therapist can ever promise any kind of progress to any person. Such expectations are dangerous, unreal and harmful.

… and what therapy should not underestimate

Whatever size the step, large or small, which is possible in your life in this moment, the best psychotherapeutic foundation is one of self love and self belief; a gentle and safe invitation to parts which may be traumatised to begin to again live and express themselves. And there needs to be practical actions in everyday life today, tomorrow and next month. Individual therapy should never underestimate the power within individual to reach towards light from darkness.

Couples therapy is different in that some relationships end naturally and it’s right that they do. It is still true however that the power of love to heal conflict should never be underestimated.

You’re welcome to meet me first

There are many websites in Bristol offering relationship counselling and psychotherapy. How to choose? What is the right one? Research shows a main factor in whether therapy works is very simply getting on well with the therapist. So you are welcome to meet me for a free half-hour initial meeting. There is no obligation of any kind.

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What my clients say

You are really, really a very kind person. Thank you for your effort and advice in helping me!

I was never convinced counselling would work. But your approach and your ability to use different methods to suit individual needs has truly changed me on a deep level.

The very first session I had with him was so helpful and powerful that I recommended him to two other people straightaway.

Andrew works gently and safely and I felt held in a safe space throughout the session.

I have made some major breakthroughs in sessions with you.

I was blown away by your insightful and transformative approach.

A different approach from other therapists I have seen before, so that I have finally solved my problem.

More happened in the first session I had with you than in 4 or 5 sessions with a counsellor.

[Your hypnosis] was remarkably effective and entirely different and tailor-made for my individual needs and experiences. Thank you!!!

Although counselling was new territory for me, it was invaluable and worth every penny.

Had a massive effect on my relationship. Learned loads of really good stuff – surpassed my expectations.

Andrew is one of the best therapists I have ever worked with. If you want to make a breakthrough with an issue in your life or relationship, I highly recommend…

I have made some incredible progress and I am now in an intimate and happy relationship thanks to your help.