The best sexual self-help advice for couples – the best!

Men and women have different libidos, and this simple self-help exercise can help you and your partner explore your complementary needs.

Sex – talking about it works

A self-help exercise that I guaranteee isn’t what you expect! Men and women have different sexual natures, different melodies and rhythms to their sexuality. And you have your own sexual nature distinct from other men, other women. These differences are natural and are not a sign of incompatibility. They are complementary.

This is an easy couples’ self-help exercise can really help your sex life a lot. Every couple who has done it have been enthusiastic.

A while back I tried to choose a book on sex to recommend to my couples counselling clients. But the books were all so different. It was as if they were talking about sex on different planets. So, this exercise was born.

(1) Each of you make an individual choice of a book on sexual intimacy.

(2) You both read both books. It’s key that you read the other person’s book as well as your own.

(3) You talk about both books. It’s the talking, the communication, that’s the point.

That’s it! – believe me it’s useful.

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– Albert Einstein

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