“How do you handle listening to people’s problems all day?” – therapist questions from Buzzfeed

“How do you handle listening to people’s problems all day?” – questions to your therapist from Buzzfeed. Answer: I don’t!

Buzzfeed.co.uk had a page about therapy for Mental Health week,  “19 Questions You’ve Definitely Wanted To Ask Your Therapist.” Silly yes, but they have enough sense, I thought I’d answer a few. (Also: Buzzfeed, you are so wrong about therapy.)

Question #17 is “How do you handle listening to people’s problems all day?” And the answer is … I just don’t do it!  Listening to problems is draining.  Pain, however, is different. Meeting authentic pain is inspiring. Indeed it is an honour. Let me explain the difference.

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Different clients, different needs: healing trauma

Different clients have different needs: How do you heal trauma? (1)

By Andrew White. Different clients needs different types of healing. And one given client may need very different healing at different stages of the work. It’s very important not to impose the same therapy on everyone.

A while I had two clients one morning who illustrated that very clearly.

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